There are a few guys at the club who have my number. No matter what I do - they will probably end up submitting me.

It's simply 'questions and answers'. They are asking me questions (through a technique) and I do not have the answer (the defense or the escape to the technique)

So - what's my objective when rolling with these guys?

• Extend the time each sparring session that it takes for them to submit me
• Identify 'the moment it goes wrong' so I can avoid this in the future
• At least try to execute my game in the seconds before they put me on my back
• Don't stress when I am in a bad position. Be calm. Wait for the escape
• 'Feel' their set ups and begin to work out 'the answer to their question'
• Understand - I am learning.

There will always be guys who can put a jiu jitsu clinic on you. And there will be guys that you also can out work. It's important to realize that, when at the academy, there is no winning or losing. There is just training. Everyone gains from rolling.

When a team mate is:

• giving you the opportunity to feel more pressure than you can deal with - you are learning how to survive
• putting a clinic on you - they are learning and sharpening their 'A' Game.

And the same goes when you work with lower belts. If there is a lower belt getting frustrated that you are out working them - tell them about your similar experiences. I find sharing stories can help. It shows you can relate to the problems. But it's important to understand that this trade off with higher and lower skills will not change. The questions will always be there waiting to be answered no matter what rank we achieve. Though the questions will be tougher.

Remember - 'The incoming tide floats all the boats'

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